Dressing The Kids
Welcome, I’m Joan Romero at MomThought.com. Thanks for joining me today. Today’s MomThought is, Dressing the Kids.
Whether we try to or not, sometimes, we think that good moms dress up their children. Unintentionally I think we try to dress them like dolls. Some times the kids will complain, “It’s not comfortable” or “It doesn’t fit right” or “I don’t like how it looks”. Even if Enoch liked a shirt yesterday, today he’ll decide he doesn’t like it at all. I’ll try to convince him that it’s a very nice shirt and that he should like it, but in the end he has his own opinions. Maybe that’s why baby girl cloths are so popular, because baby girls don’t seem to mind. They don’t care what they wear and they look so cute when they’re dressed up. But after all, kids will be kids.
I noticed that when dad gets the kids dressed, the kids are much happier. They don’t wear what I would pick out for them. Sometimes it doesn’t match and sometimes their shoes are on the wrong feet. But it’s functional, they’re clean, the kids are happy, and dad’s satisfied - he doesn’t seem to mind.
So why is it that mom’s care so much? Is it because children are just extensions of ourselves, and how people judge our children is how they judge us? Is that really the case or is that just what we assume? Or does it really matter?
In the end you’re the one living with your children. In the end, you’re the one who knows that they’re happy and well adjusted. And that will show as your children are more self confident, and as they learn which clothes go together, what looks good and what they feel comfortable in.
Here’s the leverage of being a mom. You get to decided what goes inside the closet. If the things they have to choose from are all things you approve of then you can’t go wrong, and you can have win win situations. A good place to start is to pick two complete outfits and say, “Which one do you like best?” And be open for other options. If they really want to wear their favorite sweaters, then consider that too.
It might be hard the first few times your children want to dress themselves and pick out their own clothes. You might go out into public and apologetically explain, “She’s learning to dress herself”, but that’s okay, you’ll get used to it. You might even be surprised how many people don’t notice, or how many people look right past the clothes anyway.
People love to look into the eyes and faces of your children. They like to see how they’re doing. And when kids are self confident and self aware, their faces are brighter and more accepting of others, because they are more accepting of themselves, and that’s what people appreciate. And you can know that you’re a good mom.
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Thank you,
Joan Romero
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