Get Real
MomThought.com Episode #139
Welcome I’m Joan Romero at Momthought.com. Thanks for joining me today. Today’s Momthought is Get Real.
Now people have said that children don’t need you to be their friend. They have friends. What they need you to be is a parent. Well I would like to argue that more importantly than being a parent, they need you to be real.
There’s a strange thing that goes on in our culture that as soon as someone has a child, they put on this facade. They put on this mantle of being a parent that you’re supposed to do certain things a certain way cause that’s what a good parent does. And we know a good parent because that’s what the books tell and the media tell us and the assumptions that we have and the examples that we have from our parents or other such people.
Well every person is different. Every child is different. And every situation is going to be different. And what I can tolerate one day, I may not be able to tolerate the next. And what my child does one day they may not do the next day. Or they’ll learn something new and try that out. So all the systems, all the good ideas, all the different techniques that people try, can be helpful information.
But when it comes right down to it, when it comes down to the bottom line, kids can tell if you’re being real. That’s how they know when to push a little harder. Sometimes they know that you don’t even believe your own words you don’t believe what you’re saying. But kids are so pure and in tune with what they want that they will challenge us. They will push us a little harder.
But if we, also, are in tune with what we want and what we need, then we can open up a basic conversation a basic dialogue with their children. And in the end everyone can have their needs met. And it’s nice to have that feeling of being centered. To draw into your core.
Because before you were a wife, you were you. Before you are a mother, you were you. So if you can always be you no matter what role you take on you can be grounded. And as your children grow up and move away and if something should happen to your husband, heaven forbid, you will still be you.
So if you’re not already, Get Real. It’s the best thing you can do for your kids for your husband, for yourself or anyone else that you come in contact with because you will know who you are. To share your Momthoughts go to Momthought.com or call 206-350-3037.
Thank You
Joan Romero
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